When you join .Remember you belong to the gov and that is it and there will be places that you will be station that you can not bring anyone with you no matter if they are you wife.it all depend on what your job is and also there is no over time pay no matter if you work 20 hours days in port.and more out at sea.I have a friend that end up going through 2 marriages because of how things was for him in the navy.Also one of my sisters son was in the army end up divorce after being gone for some time.just remember that if you mess up off base you pay that price for what ever it is but the mil will have there turn also.You pay twice for messing up.For how things are now they want you do more then you think and alot of times you will not work in your MOS.I did not.They put you will you are needed that is it.