Reverse of Mrs. Recluse's question

[Onlymenotu]

RedDot, My wife and I have been married 12 years end of this month, She shot and hunted with me a little in the begining then came along the kids and she sorta lost intrest in it as the kids begain to growup and I started get'n them into shooting my wife has a renewed intrest in it now.. as said before go shoot as you enjoy it.. have fun with it... join a club and shoot with them and enjoy yourself you'll find yourself amoung people of the same intrest...... from there you just have to weed out the bad ones and besides if someone can not except you for who u are* and what you enjoy doing*....... then they are most likely not the person for you

keep shooting....I would love to see more woman in the sport... there are plenty of other men out there that wish they could find a woman to enjoy they're hobby with them..... chin up

[shdwlkr]

Reddot
Hang in there with your friend and work at being a real friend and just let things happen and don't push anything.
I can tell you that because that is what my wife did when she first found me. Yes I was done with the opposite sex because of the nasty divorce I had just gone through and I lost all my firearms in that deal.
My first wife was murdered and I remarried to soon and got just what many told me would happen it just took 20 years. She was a real gold digger and I missed it big time.
I totally understand where you friend is, I wished there had been someone like you to hang out with and just get to know that all women are not gold diggers. Do things together and respect each others space at times as you are going to do things that bring back some memories that will be hard for him to deal with my current wife still has to let me be by myself and me her but we do more together and enjoy each other most of the time.
Good men and good women they are getting harder to find and even harder to hang onto because of fear of being hurt again.
As to where to look try your church or you could try the Mormons as they don't smoke or drink for the most part and they do try and be honest upstanding citizens and work hard at it.
My wife's daughter who is married and has a house full of kids is waiting for me to get enough time to go up and teach her how to shoot and her husband is a LEO and he told her to go call dad and ask him to come up and teach you. He has bought the ammo and is going to let us use his pistols but just won't take his own wife out. I really understand and am very proud that he asked his wife to call their common dad to come and help out. Yea his family has walked away from him and I am dad to both of them. Kind of nice kind of scary as now I have two more kids to be watchful for and yes I do help everytime I can. Price is a thankyou and that is all they are allowed by me, couldn't handle more as dad's are to help their kids and that is all there is to it.
Reddot
your guy sounds like a person that could be a real friend and that might be a good place to start and learn each other. Ask questions and have questions asked of you and be honest in your answers and your questions. There are some things in each of your pasts that is no bodys business so leave it there in the past until it is time to discuss it.
If this marriage fails at my age I most likely will stay single and move into the mountains to be with my animals and away from people. YOU see this marriage is that good and I don't think I could ever find someone who could be this good to me but life is full of surprises and I just hope that you find some one and I never have to again.Keep in touch here and let things happen as they do.

[DLCTEX]

My #4 son met his wife on a hunting chat forum. They chatted for about a year bfore meeting in person. They have moved home and are expectin my grandson in October. #3 married a girl who was a fisherperson and now is a hunter, including bow hunting. #1 has a significant other who has sons who hunt, but she likes to fish, #2 is single and will probably continue to hunt that way.but you never can tell. #5 is 18 and is a handfull for a 64 year old (almost) dad. So there are two single guys 42 and 18 who fit the bill, girls.

[Reddot]

I shoot, don't smoke, and I like to think I am intelligent. I want to say I am a good looking fella as well, but you be the judge. Look up the photo under my profile (not the avatar)

Mtnman31 in most cases looks don't count but in your case they do. ROFLMSS (Rolling on the floor laughing myself silly). Like I said it is hard to meet good guys. I'm going to need therapy after that.

[leadman]

Reddot, my wife and I will be married 39 years in August. We married when basically kids at 18 years old. She does not shoot at all and has only gone hunting with me a couple of times. We do fish, travel, and camp together. She is a crafter and dollmaker and I only get involved in constructing some of the frames for her items.
Shooting, casting and reloading are a big part of my life and she is welcome if she ever wants to join me, but it is not necessary for her to do so for us to be happy.
As long as your partner understands and is willing to let you do things that he does not participate in and trusts you a relationship can flourish. My wife is not resentful of the time I take for my hobbies and I am not of the time she takes.
Just make sure there are things you both can do together and are happy doing.

[runfiverun]

Leeann i am probably the last one to give advice to anyone about finding someone else.
just go do what makes you happy if you find someone else who makes you happy fine they don't gotta hold your hand 24/7.
doing things together is cool. but getting back together after doing your own thing is fine too.
they don't wanna go? .k. the car is still gonna start,if theyre in it when it leaves i guess theyre goin too if they ain't then they are either goin somewhere else,,, or not...whatever.

[jdgabbard]

I'm going to need therapy after that.

Thats what I said first time I saw his pic too.

[troy_mclure]

im a single, non smokin, shooter. lol
got to leave out the intelligent, and good lookin part! lol

i prefer the single life myself, but its not for everyone.

you could always be a cougar! lol

[mainiac]

You will find shooters who happen to be in the upper echelons in terms of the arts and education are in the skeet, trap, and sporting clays arena. Join a club and see what's going on with the singles there. Most will be married as you would expect, but you never know who's loose and fancy free. Rifle/pistol shooters tend to be in the mechanical trades. ... felix

Felix, you cant amagin how i chuckled over this one! A few years back,i got into skeet shooting real big. Started going to the nearest skeet club(about 60 miles away). I felt so out of place that i never could get myself to shoot a round with them guys.Im sure they were really good people, but i could tell they was very well-to-do, and had better guns,better clothes,better cars,and better language/manners then me. Im just a dumb pipefitter/welder, and like all my worn out junk,getting dirty,and swearing and cussing just fine! I chew skoal,drink beer,and drive gmc,and shoot 1100 rems, instead of smoking 10 cigars,sipping wine,driving mercedes,and shooting kreigoff,s!!!! Pedigree people must be the same down there as they are up here!!! BTW, sorry for hi-jacking the thread mam, couldnt help myself!

[geargnasher]

RedDot, The only thing I can say is don't single a person out based on preconceived notions, don't think the honcho of your dreams HAS to even own a gun. At the end of the day you need a man whot compliments your personality, not your hobbies.

Gear

[Sprue]

Well Reddot, since you can't find a soul mate, one that enjoys the same things in life as you, I hope that you DO have a girl friend (or male friend for that matter) that does have a hunger for the hobby such as you/us.

I know that I would not get as much enjoyment from the hobby if it were not for my fanatic shooting buddies. Its always an adventure here as we're always into something. Never a dull moment over the weekends.

I do hope that you have someone to share the silver stream arena with. If not, maybe join a gun club or a different shooting venue even, as already sugggested. If you don't have one already, buy digital camera and flood the CB Forum with pictures (like I do) and share them with us. Its fun to act like a kid and escape our ever demanding & trying world, if only momentarily.

But should you be at it all alone...... you do have us! You know what kind of good people we have here as I'm sure you've been reading the most recent of posts displaying goodwill & concern for members amongst us.

My wife showed a little interest on one occasion but thats about the extent of it. I do consider myself lucky to have a couple close friends to add to the pot & share the disease.

FWIW... we're all smokeless here to.
Best Wishes

[windrider919]

I am just what you described and much more. Women say they want a caring, sharing, compassionate, intelligent and most of all funny man. One who is strong enough to be able to show his emotions without being weak. But just try being one. I watch what appear to be good or nice women ignore the nice guys time after time and run after the 'macho, mind game playing, user' types. I have been single since 1989 and Yes, I am a little bitter because, except for being overweight I fit the profiles of 'What women say they want' exactly. But what they say and what they do are very different things. What I do see is that both sexes are looking for "the perfect love match' and will not 'settle' for anything else. I might as well be invisible. Too many romance novels and movies lead to false expectations is my opinion. I stopped looking and even though I sometimes wake up in the night reaching out for that missing person beside me I don't need a woman to be happy like I used to think. I especially got tired of ignorant people telling me that "If you will just stop looking the right one for you will come along." Well, I stopped looking and guess what. I finally learned to be happy on my own. My advice, just make friends and Carpe Diem [Seize the day]{kind of like that movie 'Yes Man'}. Just live and try to make yourself happy, and you don't need a man to make you happy either!