Ok, you have made it through the worst of it. Parts should be healing, ego should be done shredding itself.
I know, I've done my share of stupid stuff.
I would like to recomend 3 tools.
A Frankford Arsenal hand depriming tool. Great tool, can be adjusted to deprime almost anything.
Simple matter of a plastic collet used to center the brass so that the pin is centered. For me the big plus is all brass is clean before it see's my dies. Second plus is you can do this watching TV with the wife.
B Lee universal depriming die, get yourself 2 or 3 spare pins, they are ridiculously cheap.
C RCBS Hand Priming tool, I have the universal, does not need shell holders. Does everything from 7.62x25 to the big .444marlin brass with no issues.
With this a short primer leaves fingers pulling the lever out away from the handle, so it is instantly clear that the primer is not seated or there is a problem.
I even seated a primer sideways with this once, crushed the primer almost beyond recognition.But it did not go off until I went to remove it using a depriming pin and a block of 2x2 with a hole in it. Scared me when it went off but did no damage.
This is not a cheap plastic tool. This is solid, aluminum with a plastic primer holder.
This tool has amazing feel, is easy on the hands, and primes quickly and easily.
You can't prime a case with the primer extending out without knowing it. You either add pressure and the primer gives and slides into place, or you discard to be deprimed and cleaned, swage the pocket, etc.
Not a cheap tool but the very best of the hand priming tools. But don't take my word for it.
Go look at unhappy customer comments about it. If you can find any. Then look at the same for any other priming tool.
Slow down, it is not about how fast you load.
It is about how safe. Think about it, and heal fast.