I still don't understand. Maybe it is because I don't care. One of the big differences between God and me is that God cares for all people. I try to but really don't. I figure that those who do not believe will have quite a rude awakening when they face Him on judgment day. I have warned many and have even said that I will bear witness that I did so at their judgment.
As far as fearing God...seems a prudent thing to do since God himself said, "do not fear man who can only kill you, but fear God who after taking your life can send you to eternal torment". Yes, it is a good thing to fear God. Just like it is a good thing to fear a gun that is pointed at your head.