My rule of thumb is and will continue to be: Soft alloy won't shoot very accurately at higher pressures and higher velocities. So the question about higher pressures being caused by softer alloys doesn't apply to my loading. However, I suspect that softer alloys usually leads to higher pressures (let the "yabutts" begin ). I shoot for accuracy in lower pressure loads (both BP and smokeless) so I use softer alloys... and avoid the guessing game entirely.
Second thing.... flattened primers may or may not mean excessive pressure. High or excessive pressure can flatten primers OR excessive headspace at normal pressure can cause flattened primers OR lube in chamber or on case can cause flattened primers. Without pressure testing equipment guessing wrong may have consequences.