I'm probably the wrong kind of guy to ask a question or start a thread here but here goes: my son who is 33 called me today to tell me that the wife of his best friend (also 33; they've known each other since they were seven) has passed away suddenly leaving 3 children behind, the youngest being only an infant. What do you say to someone in this situation? I felt completely inadequate, even though I had known this young woman myself. Her oldest child is the same age as my oldest grandchild. I don't even know how to answer my son; I don't dare try to contact his friend who I have known since he was a child. What do you say? What is the answer?