For my 9mm guns and that bullet, I use oal of 1.060, except the LC9 which needs 1.090. Just use your barrel and do the "plunk" test. It will tell you exactly what the correct length needs to be. Yours may be different than anyone elses. Also, based on your first bullet photo, it looks like it could use a little better fill out, which may explain why you only get .356 after sizing...perhaps too small to begin with. What size do they drop at?