I believe there is way too much emphasis put on bullet hardness. I’ve gotten in more trouble with leading over the years with hard cast boolits than I ever have with the softer cast boolits.
I’ve found that the harder the boolit is the less forgiving it is for the reloader. Softer boolits obulate better & tend to be more powder friendly.
Work up some test loads & go out and enjoy yourself. You can test all the different theories you’ve read about & come to your own conclusions.