well Im somewhat pleased to read Im not actually going mad..there is an issue...
on brighter note I took out seating stem from my funny old ???rcbs??? bench primer seating tool,and regound the business end on bench grinder so its now much flatter than Id manged with oil stones...did run of 40 .44magnum loads yesterday and the primers definately looked better than they had been.will have tootoo with the .45/70 brass at some point and see if can tidy up pockets somewhat.
thanks for the replies..my sanity is restored.