Married three months...no more guns

[M-Tecs]

My buddy bought the place last year. I do not have his address yet but he told me it is on a lake near Duluth.

I was going to suggest getting together but that's too far out of my way.

[Outpost75]

Unfortunate that the bride is unfamiliar with history and how law abiding Jews were led to the gas chambers. The Israelis figured this out.

[Walks]

I read the 1st page of this to My Wife.
She said the Son should dump the wife and not the Guns.
A wife should accept her husband the way he is when she marries him and vice versa.
Telling him to dump his Guns AFTER the marriage is a big mistake on her part. She is just striving for Control of the marriage.
I was raised in a Jewish household. My Mother would've no more told My Father to get rid of His Guns, then told Him to run barefoot over broken glass.

However I did NOT marry a Jewish Girl. A Good Southern Babtist Girl is Who I married.
And I have a lot more guns then I did when I married Her 40 years ago, come next month.

Wimping out so early in the relationship is a BIG Mistake. She'll walk all over him and leave him after stomping his heart into the ground.

[indian joe]

I read the 1st page of this to My Wife.
She said the Son should dump the wife and not the Guns.
A wife should accept her husband the way he is when she marries him and vice versa.
Telling him to dump his Guns AFTER the marriage is a big mistake on her part. She is just striving for Control of the marriage.
I was raised in a Jewish household. My Mother would've no more told My Father to get rid of His Guns, then told Him to run barefoot over broken glass.

However I did NOT marry a Jewish Girl. A Good Southern Babtist Girl is Who I married.
And I have a lot more guns then I did when I married Her 40 years ago, come next month.

Wimping out so early in the relationship is a BIG Mistake. She'll walk all over him and leave him after stomping his heart into the ground.

Got it all in that last sentence I reckon! Sad but this marriage has already failed - its a dictatorship not a partnership

Mine is not a gun person at all - in near 50 years has never fired a shot (thats ok) - but she smart enough we never had that conversation above cuz we both knew how that would end - and she has been treasurer and sec / treasurer of our little blackpowder club for most of the last 25 years - got her own stuff going on socially as well - nobody gets walked on around here.

[dverna]

Is English your first language? If it is my statement says it all; if not I doubt you'd understand.
I'll try and type slower so you can pick up the gist; Don should do whatever he deems is right, but there will be potential problems if he keeps his firearms; that is if he cares to see grandkids.

I have no intention of ever getting rid of my firearms. If my daughter-in-law tried that, she will be dealing with a different person than my son. I am not rich, but I have a reasonable net worth. If they have children, and deny me access to them, the portion of my estate that was going to go to my son will go to my fiancé, In addition, I would remove my married son as the trustee of the Trust for my Special Needs son. They would lose all access to family money.

We will see how committed she is to liberal values when there is a price to pay. I will not be blackmailed and she cannot *****-whip me.

[sparky45]

Sorry you're in such a position Don, it's a real heartbreaker. Your daughter in law has and will continue to make this a monumental problem. As I stated above; " Don should do whatever he deems is right ".
I wouldn't do much different than what you're doing; after all you're left being "reactive", not "proactive". Best of luck to you.

[unclemikeinct]

Don, you are in our prayers. I would not be speaking about this issue any longer to my son. Your other boy w needs is your concern now. Get your own things in order. Along with a new Trust/trustee. uncle mike ..... actions speak louder than words.

[Sasquatch-1]

I would make sure I have in writing who is in charge of disposing of my estate after I pass. If for NO other reason than to prevent the DIL from trying to have all of your guns destroyed.

[bedbugbilly]

Don - sorry to hear this. I don't know your son nor his bride . . . , but hang on to his guns . . . . he's going to want them back sometime in the future,

I guess that 50 years of marriage make me enough of an expert to say and predict that their marriage isn't going to last. Marriage is a two way street and a 50/50 partnership where you have mutual respect for your spouse. I'm guessing she knew he had guns and enjoyed them before they got married so why this demand after 3 months? Maybe she figured she would "change" him? What is next> His friends? Keeping him from his father because you enjoy guns? When a spouse starts dictating conditions . . . whether the wife or the husband . . . they want to control the marriage and relationship which will destroy it 99% of the time.

Sounds to me like they really didn't know each other that well before they got married, Like I said . . . today it's about his guns and tomorrow it will be something else. . . . putting her family first . . . . his friends . . . . his interests . . . what they spend their money on, etc. Let's hope they wait on having kids until they both grow up and learn what marriage is all about . . . . too many kids from broken homes as it is. Liberal or not . . . it sounds like she is a spoiled and immature girl and your son may be that as well.

They both need to grow up, learn to communicate and realize that you put your spouse before yourself. If you now have his guns, then obviously they aren't mature enough to compromise . . if she doesn't like guns . . . easy enough . . . he will keep them in a locked cabinet. If she is dictating to him about his guns . . . it makes about as much sense as me telling my wife, who loves to quilt, that I don't like sewing machines and fabric and as a result, she has to get them all out of the house.

Unfortunately, as a parent, all you can do is stand back and let them figure out how their marriage is going to function . . . it will either sink or swim, All you can do is to make yourself available to you son and counsel him if he comes to you. Gook luck!

[farmbif]

things can change very quickly in this world of ours. who knows what the future holds, they might be joining the modern maccabee militia in the near future

[hithard]

Got it all in that last sentence I reckon! Sad but this marriage has already failed - its a dictatorship not a partnership

Mine is not a gun person at all - in near 50 years has never fired a shot (thats ok) - but she smart enough we never had that conversation above cuz we both knew how that would end - and she has been treasurer and sec / treasurer of our little blackpowder club for most of the last 25 years - got her own stuff going on socially as well - nobody gets walked on around here.

That first paragraph last sentence says it all!

Unless your in bed.

[Outpost75]

My assessment has always been that anti-gun Jews in America are not Democrats but arecdescended from Communists. Take that at face value.

[JoeJames]

Just kind of like the socialists who fled Europe after the revolutions of 1848, many of whom became officers in the Union Army - "I fights mit Sigel". And after the Rise of the Third Reich in Germany many of the same sort (certainly not all of the emigres) emigrated to the US before WW2. So may be some descendants of that sort. After all Lenin thought Germany would go Communist after WWI and invaded Poland to get through to Germany to help out his comrades.

[Newboy]

No guns in the house?

Before you know it she will demand he stop chasing wild women and coming home drunk!


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[Plate plinker]

She is Jewish (ironic she doesn’t know the history of her own people). Send her to Israel so she will learn what happens to people who can’t defend themselves.

[gwpercle]

Unfortunate that the bride is unfamiliar with history and how law abiding Jews were led to the gas chambers. The Israelis figured this out.

[Thumbcocker]

Masada

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[Cosmic_Charlie]

I had a 30 something buddy who would take a new girl friend to a New Orleans Radiators rock show as a test to see if she was going to be worth the trouble. If she had a problem with it he would dump her.

[myg30]

Don, also sorry to hear you and your son in this lousy position.
A good friend of mine is very into firearms and his wife was not. Ignorance of them was her main reason. Safety and worried about any possibility of access to them by any children might be visiting them, again her ignorance of storing and basic firearm safty.
Then one night she woke up hearing what sounded like someone trying to get into their home, she woke my buddy who grabbed a pistol and flashlight and told her call 911, he went down to investigate the noise. Nothing found, turned all the lights on, set the pistol down and they both waited for the police to arrive. They did find outside where a screen was pulled loose from a window but nothing else.
After all said and done, wife said, boy I’m glad you had the pistol, I almost died waiting for the police to get here.
Now she has learned to shoot and safely handle a firearm.
I’m sure we all pray we never have to shoot anyone ever, and I’m sure we are all glad we have insurance coverages for our homes, cars etc.... just in case we ever need it, just like that pistol.

Mike

[SSGOldfart]

Give it some time she'll come around,it's your sons choice
I had the same problem with my D-I-L now she enjoys shooting and has a CCL I have one less 38spl and one less 870/20 ga. but it's worth the wait. my son is happy and that's all that counts