Originally Posted by
claude
Perhaps you are discounting the effects of free will, God in His wisdom has granted the majority free will to choose to do as they please, and to negate that free will by forcing change would go against His will. From the history of your prayers concerning your wife, you know He hears and answers, ..."I prayed for God to heal My wife's and my cancer, and He did."..., you know the members are not responding, ..."7 years not to see your grandchildren is a mighty long time for some really stupid stuff!"...
To me, the conclusion is not that God has not heard your prayers, or made attempts to bring about reconciliation, my conclusion is that those being acted upon by The Father are willfully resisting.
You can take all that FWIW to you, but I think you're giving God a bum rap simply because there may be wounds these folks don't want healed, they might rather hang onto them and feed off them. Also, if they have not forgiven what ever circumstances brought about the enmity, there will be no healing.
Frankly, without speaking to all parties involved, I can offer no advice that might be instrumental in healing other than th words of Christ,
Mat 6:14-15 KJV For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: (15) But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
It would appear there are those unwilling to forgive, and are therefore, not being forgiven. I say that strictly without finger pointing, someone doesn't wish to let go.
Sorry I couldn't be more helpful.