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rl69
03-06-2017, 10:25 PM
lessons about the way we treat people






1 - First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady.





During my second month of college, our professor

Gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student

And had breezed through the questions until I read


The last one:


"What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?"

Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the

Cleaning woman several times. She was tall,

Dark-haired and in her 50's, but how would I know her name?



I handed in my paper, leaving the last question

Blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if

The last question would count toward our quiz grade.



"Absolutely, " said the professor.. "In your careers,

You will meet many people. All are significant.. They

Deserve your attention and care, even if all you do

Is smile and say "hello.."



I've never forgotten that lesson.. I also learned her

Name was Dorothy. 2. - Second Important Lesson - Pickup in the Rain



One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American

Woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway

Trying to endure a lashing rain storm. Her car had

Broken down and she desperately needed a ride.

Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car.

A young white man stopped to help her, generally

Unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960's. The man

Took her to safety, helped her get assistance and

Put her into a taxicab.



She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his

Address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a

Knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a

Giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A

Special note was attached.



It read:

"Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway

The other night. The rain drenched not only my

Clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along.

Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying

Husband's' bedside just before he passed away... God

Bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving

Others."



Sincerely,

Mrs. Nat King Cole.



3 - Third Important Lesson - Always remember those

Who serve.



In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less,

A 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and

Sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in

Front of him.



"How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked.

"Fifty cents," replied the waitress.



The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and

Studied the coins in it.



"Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired.



By now more people were waiting for a table and the

Waitress was growing impatient..



"Thirty-five cents," she brusquely replied.



The little boy again counted his coins.



"I'll have the plain ice cream," he said.



The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on

The table and walked away The boy finished the ice

Cream, paid the cashier and left.. When the waitress

Came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the

Table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish,

Were two nickels and five pennies..



You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had

To have enough left to leave her a tip.



4 - Fourth Important Lesson. - The obstacle in Our Path.



In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a

Roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if

Anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the

King's' wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by

And simply walked around it.. Many loudly blamed the

King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did

Anything about getting the stone out of the way.



Then a peasant came along carrying a load of

Vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the

peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the

stone to the side of the road. After much pushing

and straining, he finally succeeded. After the

peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed

a purse lying in the road where the boulder had

been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note

from the King indicating that the gold was for the

person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The

peasant learned what many of us never understand!



Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve

our condition.



5 - Fifth Important Lesson - Giving When it Counts...



Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a

hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who

was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only

chance of recovery appeared to be a blood

transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had

miraculously survived the same disease and had

developed the antibodies needed to combat the

illness. The doctor explained the situation to her

little brother, and asked the little boy if he would

be willing to give his blood to his sister.



I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a

deep breath and saying, "Yes I'll do it if it will save

her." As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed

next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing

the color returning to her cheek. Then his face

grew pale and his smile faded.



He looked up at the doctor and asked with a

trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away".



Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the

doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his

sister all of his blood in order to save her.



Now you have choices.



1 Delete this email, or

2. Forward it other people.

I hope that you will choose No. 2 and remember.



Most importantly.... ”Live with no regrets, Treat people the way you want to be treated, Work like you don’t need the money, Love like you’ve never been hurt, and Dance like you do when nobody’s watching.”;

NOW more than ever - Please... Pass It On...
You never know how or when you'll be paid!

Skinny
03-06-2017, 11:47 PM
Good post, thanks for sharing

Preacher Jim
03-07-2017, 12:13 AM
Great lessons in life

toallmy
03-07-2017, 06:32 AM
Almost brought tears to my eyes , thank you for sharing .

Half Dog
03-07-2017, 08:11 AM
Ditto ^^^^^^^

fjruple
03-07-2017, 08:26 AM
I have always like the phrase that John Wayne said in the movie, "The Shootist". "I won't be wronged, I won't be insulted, and I won't be laid a hand on. I don't do these things to other people, and I require the same from them."

--fjruple

floydboy
03-07-2017, 10:42 AM
Thanks rl69.....gave me something to think about.

Floyd

Beerd
03-07-2017, 10:14 PM
good post
not that anyone here needs to be reminded, but let's keep bumping it to the top for the new guys to read
..

GhostHawk
03-07-2017, 10:22 PM
Great post, and a very good reminder that we reap what we sow. Or don't get a harvest because we did not sow any seeds.

Driver33
03-08-2017, 12:07 AM
Wow that was a good read but it brought a tear to my eye reading about that little boy

bedbugbilly
03-08-2017, 12:32 AM
Excellent! Thanks for sharing with us. Now where is my kleenex!

mactool
03-08-2017, 04:20 AM
Ohh they were good. I will remember them.
thanks

54bore
03-08-2017, 07:22 AM
"I won't be wronged, I won't be insulted, and I won't be laid a hand on. I don't do these things to other people, and I require the same from them."

--fjruple


This is kinda similar to what my Grandmother taught me growing up, She told me to, "treat others the way I would want them to treat me in return" I have followed this my whole life, and like my Grandmother always said, sometimes no matter how good you are certain people will stil be harsh etc. But this will usually work with the larger majority of folks.

scarry scarney
03-08-2017, 05:46 PM
Very true.....

ghh3rd
03-08-2017, 06:05 PM
That's some good stuff...

Hogdaddy
03-08-2017, 06:39 PM
Screen got a little blurry, Must be something in my eye. Great read ; )
H/D

bob208
03-08-2017, 06:59 PM
a little thing to do but how many do it. when you take something to the shop to be repaired. when you get it back and it works great. do you just call or stop by and say great job you did on my mower weed trimmer tractor or what ever? I do.

MaryB
03-10-2017, 12:33 AM
Story I have maybe told before...

I was in line at the Walmart pharmacy waiting for the lady in front of me to finish up. She was digging in her pockets and purse for pennies to try and pay for her husbands prescription. She came up short and started crying when I laid a $20 bill in front of her and said I will cover it. She tried to give me the change and I told her to keep it. Meanwhile 2 young college kids in the back of the line were being extremely rude, swearing at her etc. Now I knew this lady, I installed a home theater system for her husband who was a Vietnam Vet who later ended up fighting cancer. The college kids got even ruder as I paid for my prescription and was talking with her... then 2 veterans from the local VFW walked up and told them to pipe down or else. The lady I helped went back into the store to get groceries and the VFW guys asked me what had happened to make her cry. I pointed at the young pukes who had decided it was wise to head for a different part of the store and said they were screaming at her because she didn't have enough money so I gave her $20. She is taking the change to go shop so I am going to follow and get a few extra of everything she picks plus some paper goods/cleaning supplies.

Now I am not wealthy, but I had extra that month I could part with and not hurt me so I just did it. It is the right thing to do. The 2 VFW guys told me to hang on and grabbed 2 carts and started filling them. We went to the front of the store when she did and took her cart and the 2 VFW guys paid for everything but the paper goods I said I would cover. They told her to call if she needed help, they knew her husband was dying and that the medical bills had almost bankrupted them to the point they were close to losing the house. She did break down crying just as the college pukes decided to make a showing again and they started in laughing and pointing until the VFW ex drill Sarge grabbed the guy by the neck and pinned him to the wall and informed him he would show respect to his elders, especially those who have served or were wives of those who had served. And you knew her husband was military by her jacket that proclaimed it with patches from everywhere he had served.

Her husband passed away 2 months later, the supplies we bought let her spend time with him and not have to worry about anything plus the VFW held a fundraiser and paid off the house for her. I run into her about once a month while shopping, we go into Subway and have a coke and talk plus I have helped her with the home theater when she upgraded to a flat panel TV. Common courtesy and not being a greedy me me me type made a friend for life, before her husband died I got a jacket with some patches that he said should go to me for the time I spent setting up his electronics and stopping in to answer questions and talk whenever he needed me. I often just stopped f I was coming back from a service call to make sure everything was working well(he had put in a top of the line system before the cancer hit) because it was off his bedroom and it was as far as he could walk some days. I didn't have to stop but he was a very good customer of the store and had been for 40 years. If I had the time it cost me nothing to pop in and tweak things as needed to make sure it was all behaving. I made friends when they were a customer and even deeper friends with her after he passed away.

Simple acts of kindness can return 1,000+++ times what it costs you in money or time!

jonp
03-10-2017, 07:02 PM
double post

jonp
03-10-2017, 07:03 PM
These "forward at all costs" emails I had thought went out of vogue some time ago. All of the stories are parables and the one about Mrs. Cole is false and a variation of the guy who gave a tattered derelict a ride in the desert. The derelict left him $1 Million or $10 Million depends on the story. Turns out the guy was Howard Hughes.

All of these boils down to the basic fact of life: you can tell a man's character by how he treats someone that can't do anything for him.

country gent
03-10-2017, 10:31 PM
Sometimes its just the simple things that make the most impact. Simply holding a door for someone struggling. Helping the person with problems get their groceries from the cart into their car. Giving a ride or calling for assistance for the person broke down. I have done all of these and still do. Last was a nice lady who left her car lights on I had pulled into the parking lot and parked beside her. She told me her battery was dead. I offered her a jump. The look on her face when I got out and opened my walker up grabbed the jumper cables and asked her to pop her hood was unique.

kmrra
03-10-2017, 10:48 PM
those times are almost gone , its not too late to change it

tygar
03-10-2017, 11:04 PM
Great stuff. Seen them before but it is good to be reminded of these things. Sent to my wife....she will for sure send them to a bunch of people.