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Artful
08-24-2016, 11:17 PM
In Nashville, Tennessee, during the first week of January, 1996, more than 4,000 baseball coaches descended upon the Opryland Hotel for the 52nd annual ABCA convention.

While I waited in line to register with the hotel staff, I heard other more veteran coaches rumbling about the lineup of speakers scheduled to present during the weekend. One name, in particular, kept resurfacing, always with the same sentiment — "John Scolinos is here? Oh, man, worth every penny of my airfare."


Who the heck is John Scolinos, I wondered. No matter, I was just happy to be there.

In 1996, Coach Scolinos was 78 years old and five years retired from a college coaching career that began in 1948. He shuffled to the stage to an impressive standing ovation, wearing dark polyester pants, a light blue shirt, and a string around his neck from which home plate hung — a full-sized, stark-white home plate.

Seriously, I wondered, who in the heck is this guy?

After speaking for twenty-five minutes, not once mentioning the prop hanging around his neck, Coach Scolinos appeared to notice the snickering among some of the coaches. Even those who knew Coach Scolinos had to wonder exactly where he was going with this, or if he had simply forgotten about home plate since he'd gotten on stage.

Then, finally ...

"You're probably all wondering why I'm wearing home plate around my neck. Or,maybe you think I escaped from Camarillo State Hospital ," he said, his voice growing irascible. I laughed along with the others, acknowledging the possibility. "No," he continued, "I may be old, but I'm not crazy. The reason I stand before you today is to share with you baseball people what I've learned in my life, what I've learned about home plate in my 78 years."

Several hands went up when Scolinos asked how many Little League coaches were in the room. "Do you know how wide home plate is in Little League?"

After a pause, someone offered, "Seventeen inches?", more of a question than answer.

"That's right," he said. "How about in Babe Ruth's day? Any Babe Ruth coaches in the house?"

Another long pause.

"Seventeen inches?" came a guess from another reluctant coach.

"That's right," said Scolinos. "Now, how many high school coaches do we have in the room?" Hundreds of hands shot up, as the pattern began to appear.

"How wide is home plate in high school baseball?"

"Seventeen inches," they said, sounding more confident.

"You're right!" Scolinos barked. "And you college coaches, how wide is home plate in college?"

"Seventeen inches!" we said, in unison.

"Any Minor League coaches here? How wide is home plate in pro ball?"

"Seventeen inches!"

"RIGHT! And in the Major Leagues, how wide home plate is in the Major Leagues?"

"Seventeen inches!"

"SEV-EN-TEEN INCHES!" he confirmed, his voice bellowing off the walls. "And what do they do with a Big League pitcher who can't throw the ball over seventeen inches?" Pause. "They send him to Pocatello !" he hollered, drawing raucous laughter.


"What they don't do is this: they don't say, 'Ah, that's okay, Jimmy. You can't hit a seventeen-inch target? We'll make it eighteen inches, or nineteen inches. We'll make it twenty inches so you have a better chance of hitting it. If you can't hit that, let us know so we can make it wider still, say twenty-five inches.'"


Long Pause.



"Coaches ..."


Another Pause.

" ... what do we do when our best player shows up late to practice? When our team rules forbid facial hair and a guy shows up unshaven? What if he gets caught drinking? Do we hold him accountable? Or do we change the rules to fit him. Do we widen home plate?


The chuckles gradually faded as four thousand coaches grew quiet, the fog lifting as the old coach's message began to unfold. He turned the plate toward himself and, using a Sharpie, began to draw something. When he turned it toward the crowd, point up, a house was revealed, complete with a freshly drawn door and two windows. "This is the problem in our homes today. With our marriages, with the way we parent our kids. With our discipline. We don't teach accountability to our kids, and there is no consequence for failing to meet standards. We widen the plate!"

Pause.

Then, to the point at the top of the house he added a small American flag.

"This is the problem in our schools today. The quality of our education is going downhill fast and teachers have been stripped of the tools they need to be successful, and to educate and discipline our young people. We are allowing others to widen home plate! Where is that getting us?"

Silence. He replaced the flag with a Cross.


"And this is the problem in the Church, where powerful people in positions of authority have taken advantage of young children, only to have such an atrocity swept under the rug for years. Our church leaders are widening home plate for themselves! And we allow it."


"And the same is true with our government. Our so called representatives make rules for us that don't apply to themselves. They take bribes from lobbyists and foreign countries. They no longer serve us. And we allow them to widen home plate and we see our country falling into a dark abyss while we watch."

I was amazed. At a baseball convention where I expected to learn something about curveballs and bunting and how to run better practices, I had learned something far more valuable. From an old man with home plate strung around his neck, I had learned something about life, about myself, about my own weaknesses and about my responsibilities as a leader. I had to hold myself and others accountable to that which I knew to be right, lest our families, our faith, and our society continue down an undesirable path.


"If I am lucky," Coach Scolinos concluded, "you will remember one thing from this old coach today. It is this: if we fail to hold ourselves to a higher standard, a standard of what we know to be right; if we fail to hold our spouses and our children to the same standards, if we are unwilling or unable to provide a consequence when they do not meet the standard; and if our schools and churches and our government fail to hold themselves accountable to those they serve, there is but one thing to look forward to ...


"With that, he held home plate in front of his chest, turned it around, and revealed its dark black backside. "... dark days ahead."


Coach Scolinos died in 2009 at the age of 91, but not before touching the lives of hundreds of players and coaches, including mine. Meeting him at my first ABCA convention kept me returning year after year, looking for similar wisdom and inspiration from other coaches. He is the best clinic speaker the ABCA has ever known because he was so much more than a baseball coach.


His message was clear: "Coaches, keep your players—no matter how good they are—your own children, your churches, your government, and most of all, keep yourself at seventeen inches."


* I was going to put this in The Pit - but I know some of you never go there and I think this is important enough that everyone should read it.

MrWolf
08-24-2016, 11:26 PM
Great message. Thanks.

runfiverun
08-25-2016, 12:11 AM
I dunno why you'd reward someone for failing by sending them to Pocatello.
Ironically I just come from there [and had a good time]

MT Gianni
08-25-2016, 09:26 AM
Low A ball is the beginners start, and for some end, of Pro baseball. Pocatello just sounds funnier and funner than Orem.

blackthorn
08-25-2016, 10:49 AM
So true then---And so much more appropriate today! Thanks for sharing.

KCSO
08-25-2016, 01:29 PM
Darn straight!!!

Blackwater
08-25-2016, 02:20 PM
Thanks, Artful. Standards have kept falling lower and lower, and limits have been coming down for so many years now, that it's really kind'a a wonder we have any left. I copied this story to my son, daughter in law and grandsons, and then to all the rest on my mailing list. Lots of content there that we can all make use of, especially the young, like my two grandboys.

One turned 17 Tuesday, and will be off on his own soon. Gave him a Ruger Mk III 5.5" HB with red dot sight. He'll be needing something like that soon, and needs to know how to shoot it well. They're both heavily into athletics and the church, but even so, one can't take ANYTHING for granted with the young these days. They're facing SO much more temptations from SO many more directions than we did coming up.

Keeping limits on their behaviors and fences around their desires ain't easy, no matter how strong your upbringing. That's been proven many, many times over! The more of this stuff they internalize now, the better their chances later, when they're loose to make their own decisions. He's got a really good coach, and that's another great asset.

Coaches are a big influence on those in athletics, and a good one is a great asset. It's sad to see so many coaches who think more of their salaries than they do of their kids or their health and well being. I despise the "win at any cost" mentality many of them have! But many honor that, not thinking, I guess, of the toll it takes on the kids - being used like tools to get what the coach wants, really.

But then, I'm out'a step with a lot of "modern philosophy," so .... nothing new there at all, really. In the end, a man's gotta' be what a man's gotta' be, lest he become something someone else wants him to be. Not much else a man can do, really, is there?

twc1964
08-25-2016, 04:12 PM
Wow, so danged true today.

smoked turkey
08-26-2016, 01:05 AM
That was good! I read it to my wife. She said she was going to share it, so I think that means she also thought it was good. We need more coaches like that today. Thanks for sharing such an inspiring message.

woodbutcher
08-27-2016, 12:15 AM
Hi Artful.Outstanding post.Truer words were never spoke.
Good luck.Have fun.Be safe.
Leo

Freightman
08-27-2016, 10:03 AM
Thanks! passed it on to the family and friends even the preacher thanks.

jcwit
08-27-2016, 11:28 AM
Thank You Art, a super post and right to the point!

Thanks for sharing.

montana_charlie
08-28-2016, 12:48 PM
I have seen the o/p article attributed to Chris Sperry and to John Scolinos.
Do you know who actually wrote it, Art?

robg
08-28-2016, 02:31 PM
Wow spot on .

WBA
08-30-2016, 01:03 PM
I believe it was General Kelly who quoted that story earlier this year when asked about allowing women in combat arms roles. It's a great way to relate standards, love the original speech.

Artful
08-30-2016, 06:57 PM
I have seen the o/p article attributed to Chris Sperry and to John Scolinos.
Do you know who actually wrote it, Art?

Came to me as an email from a friend - what you see is what I got