winchester85
08-12-2012, 10:35 PM
i am 41 years old, been living on my own since i was 16. bought 35 acres when i was 19, built my house when i was 25. i have been self-employed since i was 22. i have done pretty well and am proud of what i have accomplished... on my own.
a friend had a kid (25 at the time) working for him, at first he was living with my friend and his wife, but they needed their house back. at the time, i was taking some time off and could use the money so i said he could rent a room from me.
over the last few years he has rented from me off and on. he is a good kid and means well, but has got to be one of the least ambitious people i have ever met. he has been back at my place now since early june. he was working for me, but i had to let him go. he kept damaging my machines, never worked a full day, his productivity was low and overall he wasnt making me any money. he had quit his last 2 jobs before he was working for me. he said he was just going to collect un-employment. i about blew a gasket. i told him NO ONE would live in my house while collecting ANYTHING from the government. he finally got off his butt and got a job, that so far he has managed to show up on time for, however it has only been 2 weeks. i heard through the grapevine that his attitude (laziness) is not well received at work.
anyway, he has been here for a couple of months and the bathroom he uses has not been cleaned since( i have my own), it is also the bathroom any guest in the house would use. i am NOT a clean freak, but his bathroom was BAD. i had asked him when he had no job to clean his bathroom but he ignored me. yesterday when he woke up at 11:00am, i told him it was time for him to do some housework. an hour later i came back and he was sitting in front of his computer. later that day i looked in the bathroom and found that he had done about the minimum he could. i could see the dirt on the floor from the kitchen 15 feet away.
yesterday i washed all the dishes (including the ones he uses), washed 6 windows inside and out, swept the floor and the stairs, and cleaned the barbecue grill. i have not seen him since, when i ask him to do stuff, or tell him things he doesnt like to hear, he runs and hides. i go outside, he comes in, i come in, he goes out. or he goes to town and stays with a friend for a day or two.
i charge him a minimal amount for rent. i dont require him to do anything extra. i let him store his motorcycle and chainsaw in my garage, his tool boxes and milling machine in my shop, he had 3 trucks and a trailer here for a while, now just 2 trucks. i have a small shooting range in the back of the house that he can use whenever he wants, all the targets in the range were built by me. he shoots my targets, but doesnt even pick up his brass. sometimes his paper targets will be out there for weeks. the stairwell has greasy hand prints on the walls(not mine), his room is a disaster. the floor can hardly be seen, and the carpet has an off-colored trail leading in and out. he has a mug, a cereal bowl, a pitcher, a container of honey, and a couple of water bottles sitting on the counter next to the sink continually. over time his stuff creeps out of his room, first one pair of shoes, then 2 then 3 then 4 then 5, then a few shirts.
when the propane bottle on the grill runs out, he just stops using the grill and uses the range instead. he uses my shop-vac to clean out his truck, but doesnt bother to empty the hopper, even when it has 10 pounds of dirt in it.
he complains about having no money, but when i offer up some work the FIRST thing he asks is "what is the job, how much does it pay". in this economy? really? he had the opportunity to work for me 60 hours a week, with no commute, not physically hard work, and even let him set his own schedule, and i paid a fair wage. within a month he had backed the door of my cab over truck into the log pile (while the door was open), trashed the conveyor belt on the processor, broke 2 hydraulic levers, bent up the taillight housing on my truck, smashed 3 hydraulic hose ends on the log loader, and left the shop unlocked with the door wide open a couple of nights. when i found the door on the truck bent up, he had been missing for 2 days, man was i steamed. when he finally showed back up, he was all cheery and happy. i asked him if there was anything he wanted to tell me. i gave him a few seconds to come clean, and he says kind of hesitantly, "no". i about came unglued. he trashed the door on my truck, didnt tell me, then avoids me for 2 days, and then tries to deny that he did it. he acted just like a small child caught doing something wrong. needless to say that was the end of him touching anything i own.
if i tell him to grow up and clean up his stuff, and do his share of the housework, he hides and pouts. a couple of times he gets in a huff and starts to pack his belongings and choked up tells me he is leaving because he doesnt feel welcome. he tells me that i need to tell him his is doing a good job, and praise him for things, but he damages everything, machines, the floor in the house, hell, i even found a bullet hole in the house where he had shot at a squirrel. what am i supposed to say, "great job kid, the bullet didnt go through to the inside"? previously i convinced him to stay. i do like the kid and he is someone to do things with even if i have to push him to get out of the house. it is also nice to have someone to talk to on occasion. but man i am getting tired of his 12 year old child behavior, i swear he acts less and less mature all the time. i dont have kids, but it sure seems like i am raising one. BUT he is 29 years old!
a few years ago we got done shooting and i hear a shot inside the house, he had just put a 45 round in the floor!
end of rant.
should i just kick him out or continue to try and teach him some character?
a friend had a kid (25 at the time) working for him, at first he was living with my friend and his wife, but they needed their house back. at the time, i was taking some time off and could use the money so i said he could rent a room from me.
over the last few years he has rented from me off and on. he is a good kid and means well, but has got to be one of the least ambitious people i have ever met. he has been back at my place now since early june. he was working for me, but i had to let him go. he kept damaging my machines, never worked a full day, his productivity was low and overall he wasnt making me any money. he had quit his last 2 jobs before he was working for me. he said he was just going to collect un-employment. i about blew a gasket. i told him NO ONE would live in my house while collecting ANYTHING from the government. he finally got off his butt and got a job, that so far he has managed to show up on time for, however it has only been 2 weeks. i heard through the grapevine that his attitude (laziness) is not well received at work.
anyway, he has been here for a couple of months and the bathroom he uses has not been cleaned since( i have my own), it is also the bathroom any guest in the house would use. i am NOT a clean freak, but his bathroom was BAD. i had asked him when he had no job to clean his bathroom but he ignored me. yesterday when he woke up at 11:00am, i told him it was time for him to do some housework. an hour later i came back and he was sitting in front of his computer. later that day i looked in the bathroom and found that he had done about the minimum he could. i could see the dirt on the floor from the kitchen 15 feet away.
yesterday i washed all the dishes (including the ones he uses), washed 6 windows inside and out, swept the floor and the stairs, and cleaned the barbecue grill. i have not seen him since, when i ask him to do stuff, or tell him things he doesnt like to hear, he runs and hides. i go outside, he comes in, i come in, he goes out. or he goes to town and stays with a friend for a day or two.
i charge him a minimal amount for rent. i dont require him to do anything extra. i let him store his motorcycle and chainsaw in my garage, his tool boxes and milling machine in my shop, he had 3 trucks and a trailer here for a while, now just 2 trucks. i have a small shooting range in the back of the house that he can use whenever he wants, all the targets in the range were built by me. he shoots my targets, but doesnt even pick up his brass. sometimes his paper targets will be out there for weeks. the stairwell has greasy hand prints on the walls(not mine), his room is a disaster. the floor can hardly be seen, and the carpet has an off-colored trail leading in and out. he has a mug, a cereal bowl, a pitcher, a container of honey, and a couple of water bottles sitting on the counter next to the sink continually. over time his stuff creeps out of his room, first one pair of shoes, then 2 then 3 then 4 then 5, then a few shirts.
when the propane bottle on the grill runs out, he just stops using the grill and uses the range instead. he uses my shop-vac to clean out his truck, but doesnt bother to empty the hopper, even when it has 10 pounds of dirt in it.
he complains about having no money, but when i offer up some work the FIRST thing he asks is "what is the job, how much does it pay". in this economy? really? he had the opportunity to work for me 60 hours a week, with no commute, not physically hard work, and even let him set his own schedule, and i paid a fair wage. within a month he had backed the door of my cab over truck into the log pile (while the door was open), trashed the conveyor belt on the processor, broke 2 hydraulic levers, bent up the taillight housing on my truck, smashed 3 hydraulic hose ends on the log loader, and left the shop unlocked with the door wide open a couple of nights. when i found the door on the truck bent up, he had been missing for 2 days, man was i steamed. when he finally showed back up, he was all cheery and happy. i asked him if there was anything he wanted to tell me. i gave him a few seconds to come clean, and he says kind of hesitantly, "no". i about came unglued. he trashed the door on my truck, didnt tell me, then avoids me for 2 days, and then tries to deny that he did it. he acted just like a small child caught doing something wrong. needless to say that was the end of him touching anything i own.
if i tell him to grow up and clean up his stuff, and do his share of the housework, he hides and pouts. a couple of times he gets in a huff and starts to pack his belongings and choked up tells me he is leaving because he doesnt feel welcome. he tells me that i need to tell him his is doing a good job, and praise him for things, but he damages everything, machines, the floor in the house, hell, i even found a bullet hole in the house where he had shot at a squirrel. what am i supposed to say, "great job kid, the bullet didnt go through to the inside"? previously i convinced him to stay. i do like the kid and he is someone to do things with even if i have to push him to get out of the house. it is also nice to have someone to talk to on occasion. but man i am getting tired of his 12 year old child behavior, i swear he acts less and less mature all the time. i dont have kids, but it sure seems like i am raising one. BUT he is 29 years old!
a few years ago we got done shooting and i hear a shot inside the house, he had just put a 45 round in the floor!
end of rant.
should i just kick him out or continue to try and teach him some character?