I am divorced once, about 20 years ago, best thing I ever did. Now I am married again with 2 kids. Things are up and down with us now, money is tight and she worries too much in my opinion. I have learend to just not take it too personal, people think how they want to and usually you can't change their minds. What you can do is stay friendly and helpful as much as you can and don't try to force things. If they really want to go they will, but don't force them out due to your pride or stubbornness. I hate to sound sexist but most women don't think the way most men do. I have a difficult time to not try and change her mind using logic, but she bases WAY too much of her decisions based on emotion. So I try and act accordingly. She doesn't make sense(to me) but that is just how it is, so I deal with it. Just remember it takes TWO people to make a marriage, and if you are the only one trying it will never work.