In 40 S&W I carry 200 gr XTP's loaded to slightly over 900 fps from a Glock M27 or a cast 200 gr at 930 fps from the M27 Glock. Use the same loads in a XDm 40 S&W too.
In a 10 MM I carry 200 gr XTP's loaded to a higher velocity than the 40 S&W. Why not, if I wanted 40 S&W power I would use the 40 S&W.
In a 45 Auto I carry 230 FMJFP or 230 grain cast FP.
That is just what I do. To each his own.