I posted this on my MeWe page but I don't think anyone will actually see it. sigh So I am also posting it here for the consideration of you folks. All comments are appreciated:
I was brought to realize something recently. Reading comments on a Youtube video on "How to get free stuff" (from your friends) By Jeremy Feilding, one person posted "First you have to have friends 😢. "
I thought it was a joke and commented that it made me laugh.
That prompted quite a few replies on the fact that many people out there in internet land REALLY do not have friends.
Some even rebuked me for taking it lightly.
Let me say here right now. I HAD NO IDEA.
I am 68 years old and NEVER had a problem finding or making or having friends.
On the contrary, I have lamented more than once that friends were a burden that often wore me out. And half jokingly said "I need to get rid of some of my friends".
But here I am now actually shocked by the state of our society that so many people struggle with sadness over not having friends.
In fact I was just praying for them.
It actually breaks my heart to think of.
I can and will be praying but thinking of what else I can do, came up with several ideas:
One obviously is to make more friends to try to cheer people up. Comfort people. Show grace and mercy to them. All things I needed to consider anyway as a disciple of Jesus Christ. He did, after all, say "do unto others as you would have them do unto you". Okay I will repent..
Another idea:
Teach people how to make friends. Yes, I can do that. But it must done with the utmost consideration.
People who don't have friends generally do not like to be taught either. (just part of the new society that has been spawned since the absence of Christian charity.
Yes Christian charity is the key. "Love one another" is a practically defunct directive in our youth. It has been for quite some time.
I dare say few people know what phileo is anymore. (philéō -from phílos, "affectionate friendship" – properly, to show warm affection in intimate friendship, characterized by tender, heartfelt consideration and kinship. )
So how to you instruct a person to gain a practical knowledge of this concept?
I guess baby steps?
We all have a desire to be loved.
We all have a desire to be accepted.
How does one get someone to accept them?
Actually even before the desire to be accepted I guess would come being interested enough in someone else to even desire to be accepted.
I dare say many folks have acquiesced to the point of not having any interest in other people. (comes from prolonged discouragement).
When I was a youngster (10 or 12 yrs old?) My dad was concerned for me because I had lost interest in making friends.
I will never forget his admonition: "Boy, take an interest in people".
I have come to realize, looking back at my life, if there is one quality I have that has helped me in life it is the fact that I have been doing just that. I guess I made a habit of it.
I believe it is the KEY to making friends...
Simply
"TAKE AN INTEREST IN PEOPLE"
Many years later I found the same directive in the Bible...Philippians 2:4 "Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others".
End of lesson #1