Well it looks like almost everything you asked about is covered here. I would reiterate that you need to size your castings. There will be one or more in a batch of seemingly correct boolits that are inexplicably too big and If you just load them up those few will hang up when feeding and you will have a jammed gun, Speaking of the 45 here. I had trouble especially with the tC style bullet. I have just gotten a 38 Charter arms and have found that .358 boolits will push through the cylinder with a little friction. My 9mm carbine likes .357 sized boolits. I have 4 Lee 38/9mm sizers of which one sizes the actual size that is stamped on the outside of it. They are all within a few thousandths but the micrometer is my friend so I can know for sure what diameter I am loading.I got most of them used and know that they have been "adjusted", which is easily done as long as you want to go bigger. Tumble lubing is good lubing for velocities attainable for handguns as long as the boolit is big enough to seal the bore, that is the key. Powder coat is interesting because it is clean to shoot. It is however messy to do and you need a dedicated oven. I was able to pick one up from a junk pile a while back so it was cost free and when I am done with it, it will go back to a junk pile.. You will still need to size after powder coating by the way. I routinely use range scrap or any scrap I can get my hands on. If it makes a ringing sound when dropped on concrete I know it is harder than pure and use it. I might mix in pure or some lead that does not ring when dropped but do not get carried away with testing alloy. I view casting as more art than science and just have fun with the process.
Oh yes, I almost forgot , I use Ove Gloves to handle my molds with. I do not like to pound on the sprue plates and find that I can open the sprue and dump the cut off into my gloved hand to return to the pot immediately and dump out the boolits and even use my thumb to ease a stubborn boolit out of its cavity If necessary without getting burnt.
The comment about heating up a 6 banger above and gradually getting up to production temperature by successively filling one or two cavities at a time is spot on. If you do this you will probably not break the handle off the sprue cutter , they are a little fragile and do not tolerate being forced .You will also want to have a pile of ingots ready to feed the pot as the level goes down so you can keep on casting and not let the mold cool off. Once you are going, and getting good boolits, you will not want to stop if you are at all like me.
I am using an old corn bread mold for an ingot mold, made of cast iron. they slip right into the pot and disappear when I am in production. I have an extra one what is your address. You can PM me.