Me & my son reload for 40 and 9mm, my son has a glock in 40, I have a 40 Shield, in 9mm I have a S&W mod. 39-2 and a Sig P-6 my son has a P-6 as well.so far no bulge or primer pocket issues. Since we are punching paper and plinking we don’t load it “hot”. Far as resizing brass goes we use a Go gage and calipers in any caliber we use , I cast lead rn TL .125s for the 9’s and plated 155gr for the 40’s. Not sure if I can mention brand names of dies but they come in a red plastic box.
I’ve been reloading almost 40 years. This unsupported case buisiness is new to me.
As an aside, any new pistol or revolver state in the manual “to only use factory ammunition “ or in some cases it could void their warranty.