My wife has a Charter Arms Lavender Lady 38 Special. It is a light frame 5 round revolver that's easy to control. She also has a Ruger LCP, and she likes the 38 Special much better. Here it is:
https://charterfirearms.com/products...-lavender-lady
As for the purse question, my advice is to get a purse designed for concealed carry. My wife has one from Graf and Sons. Don't recall the price but you can check their web site. https://www.grafs.com/