Sounds a lot like my thought process as well. For me the main reason for going 458 over 450 was the selection of heavy boolits and not having to modify the mags. I plan on using a can on my AR for quiet hunting and being able to get a bigger hunk of lead with the 458 and more available heavy bullets and molds broke the tie. Another thing that helped was that I have several hundred .458 bullets from a trade that need a home.
I know with the 458 you have to open up the ejection port on the upper (if using standard upper), but I think the same holds true for the other two choices.
Haven't had a chance to shoot much, but something about having a 45-70 in an AR appeals to me. Same thing can be said for having a 30-30 in AR (300blackout) and a 44mag in a 1911 (460 Rowland)