My oldest has the affliction also. Drugs alclhol wrong crowd. Its been a trial for me ( single parent wife was killed in 2002). Shes been to rehab a couple times and leaves when she wants. 28 years old so She can make decisions herself. She has ODed once, We went into town got her and got her admitted to a hospitals program away from the crowd in an a joining county. She sighned herself out after 2 weeks. Ive had to let her go, I cant Loan her money as I don't know where its going or what for, I cant bring her her as I cant trust her or have her "friends" here. SHes lost her drivers license for Insurance violations. and accidents. Last was driving a stolen car. She claims she didn't steal it but was told it was a friends car.
What ever you do don't loan give money, it just enables them to continue. Be tough and hard right now. Until He decides He needs help and support its not going to get better. I found even covering bills with a check made to Doctor or company, She just held her money back for the drugs alchlol, while I covered the neccities.
This is very hard to go through and can is devastating to a family. He cant go on like he is and wont change until he decides to. Unfourtently it probably wont be until he hits bottom and has no choice left.