Just a few thoughts this morning on a part of the aging process that I sure had not expected.
I'm 80 in about a month and I, like so many others suffer some physical disabilities but just keep on trucking...I've been a very strong, hard working man through my entire life..hard core sportsman..hunter and fisherman...active with car things, hot rods, etc...a skiier, swimmer, you know...hard working and hard playing man all allong.
About 10 years ago I had a series of things that sort of changed things...had to have a total knee replacement from an old inury and it was one that was really involved..while I have had great success with it there are some things I can't do....about the same time I was in Mexico and suffered a "blunt force trauma" injury to my chest on a fishing boat...like hitting the steering wheel in a crash with no air bag...it destroyed the phrenic nerve that makes your diaphragm work on one side so I'm left with only half my breathing capability...that just sort of progresses....can't be fixed so breathing is limited...on top of that I have later stages COPD from all the years of smoking and it's really taking it's toll...finally I was in a TWA airline mishap in 1974 and got my back broken...it supposedly was repaired and has been ok for a long time...but i exercised a lot so it stayed strong and loose.
Upshot is breathing limits any ability to exercise so back and legs are failing and that limits any exercise (vicious circle) and the COPD and one lung cuts my ability to breathe to a small percentage of what I'd need to do any meaningful exercise.
So to the crux of things....a few days ago I went to Lowes to shop for a dishwasher...mid day ...went in (it's an enormous Lowes store) and I was having a bad breathing and walking day....and then I spotted it....the scooter that they have for customers. Ive seen those and seen folks riding them but have always passed it off as something for use by handicapped folks and certainly nothing I'd use. Well, I thought I'm going to give that thing a try.
I figured out how to run it and went up and down a wide aisle a couple of times to get the hang of things and then headed into the heart of the store to find the dishwashers. There was the sign...clear at the end of the building so very glad I had my trusty scooter...I headed down the aisle....the further I went the more crowded the aisles were with merchandise and when I got to the appliance section the aisles were full and over crowded with displays, huge washer and dryer combinations, etc and the little girl working there was up on a ladder stocking shelves with stuff piled all over the floor...I somehow managed to navigate the way back to the dishwasher section and began to look at things and as I weaved in and out of the junk on the floors I got deeper and deeper into the maze of stuff until I was blocked on all sides except behind me.
I backed out with beeper beeping, bouncing off display after display with the little girl hollering to look out I was hitting things...I asked here which aisles were open so I could just get the hell out of there and she gr udgingly got off the ladder and moved a bunch of stuff to sort of clear a path...she was the only person I saw anywhere in a Lowes costume. I managed to get out to the main aisles again and tried to make a plan of how to go to get into the dishwasher section and finally figured i'd park the scooter and walk back in and get literature and look at th e units.
Iparked the scooter well out of the way and started back when I heard the dread words from the little girl : "you can't park that there..move it"..so back on the scooter I went and straight to the exit...I was in the door way area where the carts, etc were all stacked up and I parked the scooter and started to leave and walk the long walk back to my car when the cashier said "you can't leave that there..it goes in the next door area..I told her she needed to get someone to handle that if it was important and I left.
I was mad, embarassed, humiliated and felt like I'd just crossed some terrible invisible line into a whole new phase of my life....so I came home..got on the internet..the Wife and I "internet shopped" and ordered a dishwasher...no scooter or crowded aisles, no children in charge and no "rules"..I do understand why brick and mortar stores are having a problem but much of it is their own making...The scooter was supposed to be a help and I do appreciate that...but the lack of simple customer courtesy that goes along with it as well as the piles of junk and displays filling the aisles offsets any convenience and makes for a very difficult time in their store.
Like Dirty Harry said..."Man's got to know his limitations".....when I was 60 I was strong as an ox..nothing stopped me when I was on a quest...had no need for "aids" or helps and now have realized things may be a bit different...going to be on line more and go to smaller stores when I do need to go out...big box stores have lost their charm.
So here's to all the older guys and gals that are sort of finding things out they really don't want to discover...just keep a smile and realize it's just what every one ahead of us has gone through...some day that little girl with the sassy attitude might be the one trying out the scooter for the first time and someone will get in her face about blocking things and hitting things..I'd love to be there.
Oh, and one more thing....we have a dishwasher that has been there for many years..just tired but still working...the plubming and electrical works just fine but lo and be hold because I live in the idiot state of California the fix it fairies that take care of all my safey and health (same folks that bring us legal marijuana and sanctrary cities) have changed the plumbing and electrical codes and nobody will take out the old dishwasher and install the new one without some alteration to the plumbing and electrical...so I began the calling..near us is a plumbing and electrical shop...been there for years...have used them on out house and our rental nearby..they said they would send out the electrical estimator (cost $40) and then send the plumbing estimator (again a $40 cost) and then give us a combined estimate..I found this same friendly greeting at a couple of other places so you know what ?? (and here come the flamers)....I'm calling Phileppe...we live very close to the Tijuana border and there are hundreds if not thousands of hard working Mexicans that are skilled,cheap and clean...I try not to use them....I try hard to insure Americans get the jobs I might have if I need help...and have usually found people....but now I find that the insane laws...the rules and restrictions, the changing and ever dumber reglations have just gone far enough...Phileppe will show up..with one helper...I'll tell him not to let oil from his "chebby" leak on my driveway...I'll have the "hose kit" ready (got it from the same place as the dishwasher..on line)...he will come in..carefully spread out cardboard and old quilts to protect the floor..pull the old washer...install the new one and hook it up and make sure all is well (using the old electrical and plumbing lay out (new wires and pipes and valves) and he'll clean it up and take the old dishwasher (probably back toTijuana for some family member that can use it...and I'll give him whatever he asks (which will probably be way less than half of the stores and no "$40 estimate" for each trade...
I'll do what I need to do to survive and more people are doing the same...so keep the scooter..keep the estimates, keep the rules and regulations...I'll get my stuff...get me a hard working "border buddy and we will have a dishwsher.