I do not have control over what other choose to do. However, I can make recommendations that are in their best interest. Purse carry or off body carry is not in their best interest. I understand good advice is often ignored, but that does not change the fact that it is good advice.
Nobody is obsessing over this and it is quite mistaken of you to suggest that is what is happening. I just never tell women purse carry is a smart thing to do. Ever.