BM
Sorry to hear of your problem...
I had base-of-tongue cancer in 2010 and was told 2 weeks to live- my only hope was the Mayo Clinic and they said 15% chance of surviving the operation... that was 8 years ago and now I have inoperable prostate cancer so I contacted Mayo again... they are proposing hormone/proton beam radiation- might turn me into a girly-man but its better than the alternative...
I highly recommend the Mayo Clinic in Phoenix if you can arrange it. The Cancer Society can provide housing for out-of-town treatment (they put us up at a golf resort for several weeks last time)
Good Luck
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